There were 109 million single people over the age of 18 in 2015, according to the United States Census Bureau, which is 45 percent of the adult population. With these vast numbers, the odds that you’ll find your life-long partner are certainly in your favor. Unfortunately, there’s a world of difference between finding someone to date and a true, lasting relationship. If you’re looking for the right person, here are some tips to help you find your significant other.
1- Think Positive
One of the first things you have to realize is that your perfect partner is out there, according to Collette Gee of Huffington Post. Therefore, put your tunnel vision goggles on and go hunt for him or her. In other words, remain positive no matter how many bad relationships you’ve had. Stay focused on your main objective of finding the right person as you go through the motions of dating. Believe in yourself. It’s easy to get discouraged and go into hibernation after a bad experience. Everyone goes through the phase of feeling sorry for themselves or overindulging with their favorite foods or movies — just to escape the reality that they’re single and dissatisfied with that status, but you have to slough off the nightmare dates, toughen up and keep trying to find that special someone. Dating more will also help you get more comfortable with the opposite sex. You’ll then be that much more relaxed when you meet him or her.
2- Expand Your Horizons
Perhaps, like other people, your mother has told you that “you’ll find someone one day, dear.” That’s probably true in most cases — and simply leaving your love life open to chance was how you would do things years ago. But today you have so many other options. There’s nightclubs, churches, special interest groups, martial arts and dance classes, dating services and online dating. Online dating sites in particular can expand your scope of prospects. These sites enable you to scroll through large databases and select the people who interest you. Some sites even calculate compatibility scores to show you who’s most suitable for you. If you’ve been hesitant to try these dating services because you might appear desperate, don’t be. Most single people try online dating, and the negative stigmas of the past no longer apply. The key to finding someone special is to increase your points of contact with members of the opposite sex.
3- Focus on People Like You
They say opposites attract, but when it comes to dating, it’s best to find someone with similar interests and values. If you have a strong faith, for example, you’d probably have a better chance of finding the right person through a church group than a bar. However, despite the importance of common interests and values, the key to lasting compatibility is having mutual respect for one another. With that said, search for your special someone in places where you share a common interest — like at a gym — but don’t rush into a relationship. Get to know that person on an emotional level before committing to any long-term relationship.
4- Be Willing to Give of Yourself
Confidence Builder LLC said, “A true meaningful and romantic relationship takes effort”. You must be willing to compromise with your significant other and even sacrifice to make your love-life work. Everyone has certain quirks, whether it’s being messy or spending too much time on certain activities. Learn to overlook certain flaws in your partner, and make sure he or she does likewise. Spend less time reading at night or cut a few sets out at the gym so you can spend more time with your partner. Be creative in arranging romantic moments to avoid falling into a certain routine. Arrange for your partner and you to have some alone time to see friends or engage in special activities. Then, when you see that person again, it will make it that much more special.
Starting today, get out of your comfort zone. Start joining organizations or expanding your number of opportunities to meet your life-long partner. It may take a while and you might have some awkward experiences, but you’ll be much happier in the long run.